Many teachers are unwilling to undertake the responsibility for raising children. They see it as parents’ duty, stating that their own obligations are confined to teaching. Obviously parents tend to see it the other way round: their children spend so much time in school that there’s none left for teaching them manners at home. So where is the truth?
Of course, teachers can’t and don’t have to correct parents’ mistakes, but in some cases bad child’s behavior doesn’t come from poor upbringing. Teenagers, for example, even with the most responsible parents, often break rules and assert themselves by fair means or foul. It is usually over when the storm-and-stress period fades away.
However, you can indeed blame other parents. The ones who are eager to fight for their children’s rights even when the children are in the wrong. For instance, some devoted moms would constantly come to school and make a row, blaming teachers for being unjust and claiming that school rules are stupid.
In such families kids grow up selfish and rude, as they are not afraid of any punishment. Charley Bensley, a teacher from Ventura County, believes that these parents are simply misguided. They are well-meaning and want to protect their children, failing to realize that there’s the dark side of the picture.
That’s where teacher’s task becomes even more difficult. They should not only get on with children, but also contact their parents in case of troubles to find a common way out. Collaboration with parents gives an excellent chance of getting to the core and doubles the chance of success. The experience of high school teacher Fred Lammers proves that the system works. His unruly students are not allowed to enter his classroom again unless their parents agree to a conference. It doesn’t eliminate the problem completely, but the result is palpable.
Thus, you can’t devise an unfailing remedy, but the point is to reduce conflicts in school by putting teachers’ and parents’ efforts together. The solution also lies in the art of making children understand why education matters.